Anger Management Tools

Again, anger management will give you the tools to walk away and eventually to cool down. But the real tools are facing
the reason why you are acting out in anger or rage. I actually question an anger Management counselor on why they didn't call
Anger Management, "Rage management," and the answer I received was "yes they should call it Rage Management," but for
funding reason they have to call it, "Anger Management." Call it what you want, but crossing the line hurts and it surly hurts
the other person or persons at the other end. And besides the hurting, once you go there, "Rage," the candle is out.

I am sure there are lots of reasons why someone can get very angry, but what I have learned for myself is that as child I had
learned to protect myself from being hurt and powerless from someone I loved very dearly who physically abused me as a child.
After years of recovery I know now that if I feel the feelings of hurt I use to have a tendency to protect myself by going
there-there was a place of Anger to protect myself, but now I have learned not to respond in Anger but to recognize my feelings
and emotions and then share them by simply saying, "What you did or what you said really hurt me." That's it. "Hurt." Hurt,
"hurts" and as from my inner-child I was tired and sick of tired of being hurt and as an adult I was tired and sick and tired of
being Angry and hurting others. Now it goes back to the first step admitting and accepting. I do admit and I do accept. Here
are some tools you can use to stay healthy:

I believe Sponsors can help those who can not afford a Therapist by working the 12 steps of AA, CA, or even NA. Find a good
sponsor. A sponsor who would require you to do the work and not a sponsor who just wants to tell the world he's your
sponsor and does nothing. Be honest and open up my friend.

A Pastor is another great resources. If do you go to church then talk to your Pastor and be honest and drop it like it's hot.
Don't worry, your Pastor will know what to do with all that garbage.

Acting out in Anger and Rage is very terrible for anyone. The victims who survives eventually lives in fear and for
those who do not survive their families lives in terrible grief.

Relationships are never the same after a heated argument, even though, there are make-ups and there are times to forgive,
but when the candle is out because of the cold words of rage that spits out from tip of the shadowing tongue- those cold words
will quickly seek into the once warm loving relationship and soon things become cold. The closeness will become distance.
The friendship will become a sinking ship.

Please don't hurt your love ones and your children with rage. Please stop the anger cycle and save yourself and your family.

You will find a poem titled "A woman". This poem is in my book, "Poetry Away from the Darkside."

I pray for those who are rage-full to get professional help and I pray for the victims not to become a slave to rage.

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11 Easy Ways to Manage Anger By Michael Atma, click here to read.

The tools for anger management will teach you how to walk away. It will also save you or your victims from bodily harm.
It will save you on legal fees and from going to jail. And most of all, it will save your family or your victims family from living
in fear. Lastly, it can save a life. But, knowing where all that rage is coming from and why is really the key to change your life
for ever and to break this cycle. No more of that feeling of being angry at the world. The key to break this cycle is support, a
professional Therapist or a sponsor, and most of all, "Your Higher Power" Remember, we all are servants and were giving the
tools to serve in our ways and a professional Therapist or a Sponsor are gifted servants as well and some may not even know
that.

Don't act in anger or in rage for you will offend someone or scare them away... Just set yourself free and face your pains. Remember, recovery is about
change and taking the steps to do something about it. Just don't say, "I turned it over to my Higher Power," with-out doing the work because it will
come back at you.